TL;DR
- Perimenopause affects mood and sex life.
- Symptoms can start in your 40s or earlier.
- Hormone therapies can help manage symptoms.
- Communication with partners is key during this time.
- Trans men also experience similar symptoms.
So, you’ve hit that awkward age where your back strains just from sleeping wrong, and suddenly, the club feels a bit too loud? Welcome to perimenopause, darling! This transitional phase before menopause can throw your body for a loop, but fear not, because we’re here to spill the tea on how it impacts your sex life and what you can do about it.
Perimenopause typically kicks in when you’re in your 40s, but some may start feeling the effects earlier. According to Dr. Kathleen Jordan, chief medical officer for Midi Health, “Changes in your period are often the most-noted symptom.” You might notice your cycles getting shorter, heavier, or just plain weird. And let’s not forget those delightful hot flashes and brain fog that can make you feel like you’re losing your mind.
But wait, there’s more! These symptoms can seriously impact your mood and libido, which is a real bummer for your sex life. If you’re feeling a bit off in the bedroom, you’re not alone. Shaira Daya, a registered dietitian and perimenopause nutritionist, explains that early symptoms can be subtle. “Your period may be more frequent or shorter in length,” she says. “Bleeding may be heavier, lighter, or accompanied by bloating, cramping, or headaches that you never used to experience.” Sounds fun, right?
So, what can you do about it? Well, hormone therapy is an option, and it doesn’t have to wait until menopause hits. Dr. Jordan reassures us, “One does not need to wait until full menopause to experience the symptoms, nor do they need to wait until full menopause to benefit from hormone therapy.” If you’re not into hormones, don’t sweat it! There are non-hormonal medications and lifestyle changes that can help ease your symptoms. Think diet adjustments and more strength training.
Now, let’s talk about the elephant in the room: sex. As your hormones shift, you might notice a dip in libido, trouble getting aroused, or even vaginal dryness. This can be especially tricky in lesbian relationships where both partners are experiencing these changes simultaneously. Dr. Jordan points out, “These changes are real. We have changes in our sensory receptors and the skin of the vulva and vagina can become thinner and less elastic, making things feel differently.” Yikes!
But fear not, because there are ways to keep the spark alive! Invest in high-quality lubricants, consider prescription vaginal estrogen cream, and don’t shy away from exploring new forms of intimacy. “Perimenopause is also an excellent time to expand your definition of intimacy,” Dr. Jordan suggests. Focus on sensory play, external stimulation, and open communication with your partner about what feels good right now.
And for our trans men out there, you’re not off the hook either. If you have ovaries and a uterus, you might experience similar symptoms. Sofie Roos, a bisexual licensed sexologist, emphasizes the importance of finding a trans-inclusive doctor who understands your unique challenges. “Always remember what you have the right to respectful health care that makes you feel seen, understood and that helps,” she says.
In conclusion, perimenopause is a natural part of life that can impact your sex life, but with the right knowledge and support, you can navigate this transition with confidence. So, don’t hesitate to talk to your doctor, communicate with your partner, and embrace this new chapter of your life. After all, you deserve to feel good in your body and your relationships, no matter what stage of life you’re in!