Spotify may summarize your musical year, but when queer data-driven platforms share their annual wrap-ups, we get a different kind of insight — one that reveals not just tastes, but pleasure trends. According to Squirt Unloaded’s 2025 analytics, gay men across the country returned to classic, reliable sex positions in overwhelming numbers. Doggy style, missionary, cowboy, side-by-side, and frotting topped the list, proving that while experimentation can be fun, the foundational moves continue to deliver the most consistent satisfaction.
But familiarity doesn’t have to mean predictability. So Pink Times turned to bisexual sexologist and relationship therapist Sofie Roos to explore how queer couples (and singles) can make these tried-and-true positions feel more connected, more intentional, and more pleasurable — all while staying grounded in communication and consent.
1. Doggy Style: Still the People’s Champion
Doggy style remained 2025’s undisputed favorite, and Roos says that’s no surprise. The position offers a wide range of angles and intensities, making it one of the most adaptable moves for couples. According to Roos, “the angle is everything.” Adjusting posture — like arching the lower back or widening the stance — can help change depth and rhythm, allowing partners to find what feels best.
Roos also suggests integrating other forms of stimulation. The partner being penetrated can touch themselves or guide their partner’s hand. Meanwhile, the penetrating partner can explore erogenous zones like the back, thighs, or chest. As Roos puts it, doggy style is “intense,” which makes communication especially crucial: rhythm, depth, and comfort should be openly discussed and adjusted on the fly.
2. Missionary: The Underrated Intimacy Boost
Despite stereotypes that gay men “don’t do missionary,” Squirt’s data shows the opposite. Missionary ranked No. 2, in part because it offers eye contact, emotional connection, and easier communication.
But this position has mechanical benefits too. Placing a pillow beneath the hips or lifting the legs can create angles that better align with prostate stimulation. Roos also suggests slowing things down: “Soft, slow, deep movements can be surprisingly hot.” Missionary’s strength is its blend of intimacy and control — so lean into both.
3. Cowboy / Riding: A Power Position
Cowboy, where one partner straddles or sits atop the other, lets the person on top control pace, depth, and angle. Roos emphasizes that leaning forward or backward can change how stimulation feels internally, and shifting from up-and-down movement to a slow back-and-forth grind can create more consistent pressure in the right places.
For stability, hands can rest on thighs, a headboard, or intertwined with a partner’s hands. And for those who want to mix things up, reverse cowboy offers a fun twist — literally.
4. Side-by-Side: Perfect for Slow & Sensual
Side-by-side (or “spooning sex”) is one of the most comfortable positions, especially for long sessions. With both partners lying on their sides, it creates a sense of closeness while keeping hands free for additional stimulation. Drawing the top knee toward the chest can deepen penetration, and the partner behind has effortless access to the chest, stomach, and hips.
Roos also notes that couples who want to experiment can incorporate toys, though the focus remains on comfort, connection, and slow-build intensity.
5. Frotting: 2025’s Most Versatile Move
Frotting requires no penetration at all — simply two bodies, friction, and communication. Roos recommends high-quality lubricant and encourages partners to vary pressure, rhythm, and positioning. Standing, sitting, lying face-to-face — all are great options.
Frotting can feel intimate, playful, and exploratory. It’s also a good option for couples who are taking a break from penetration or exploring new forms of connection.
The Big Takeaway: Pleasure Loves Communication
Across all positions, Roos emphasizes the same truth: communication is the hottest tool you have. Classic positions stay beloved because they’re adaptable, accessible, and endlessly customizable. Whether you’re deepening intimacy with a long-term partner or exploring with someone new, a little intentionality goes a long way.
If 2025 proved anything, it’s that queer pleasure is evolving — but the foundations remain strong, flexible, and full of potential.